Welcome to Pretty Good Ugly
Recovering Perfectionist Trying to Human
I’m a Silver Millennial Mom who aims for pretty good, even when it gets ugly.
August 2025
In the past week I have: Successfully set up camp solo Gone paddle boarding (tall knees) Worked three shifts Taken kidlette to the fair (solo!) Practiced harmonies for my next show I am proud of these mini accomplishments, things I wouldn’t have thought possible not too long ago. I’ve also: Run into people I know…
Why We Write It Down
I’m doing my reluctant room-clean, going through the piles that have stacked up, and I came across an old “Goals” list. Bake bread, jog/walk neighborhood, gratitude practice, weekly clean 1 task a day. Now these goals may seem elementary to you (congratulations on your achievements), but to Then-Me, these were significant. To current me these…
Self Worth
I was recently, and painfully, reminded that while people can change, most people don’t. That the way they’ve treated you in the past is a real indicator of how they’ll treat you today and tomorrow (and tomorrow and tomorrow). (Sorry, theatre nerd, I always have to say it in threes). At first, I got angry…
Emergency Refill
SOMETIMES, you order your refill meds on time. But they don’t arrive in time. And SOMETIMES instead of panicking or blaming yourself/the pharmacy/mail, you seek a solution. And find one. Grateful for a holdover refill, grateful to have had the availability and bandwidth to solve the problem. And grateful I could drive there instead of…
Shakespeare in Recovery
Navigating the world while recovering from an eating disorder is tricky. Some pieces are CLEARLY tricky: when diet culture is constantly inviting you back into sickness, when advertisers bank on activating insecurities, when hustle culture applauds working through lunch. These are challenges I am aware of, and can more-or-less cushion against. Part of my brain…
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